I was amused and confused when my 13 year old
cousin, advised me during a casual conversation about relationships, “Don’t
believe girls anna, they will break your heart”. He is not the only one. The
phrases like, “She left me for someone”, “She cheated me”, “and she ripped my
heart apart” are more common, when broken relationships are the context of
conversation. The very common advice given to any guy getting into a new relationship
is, “Don’t get too involved, else you will suffer a lot to get back, if in case
she dumps you”. And in any broken
relationship, it is girls, who always bear the cross.
Why is it always girls who bear the blame? Are
they so heartless and vicious? Or are we looking at only one side of the coin?
One logical answer I could think of is that, “Because
it is a man’s world”.
Its men who tell the stories, who writes the
history, who direct movies, who write lyrics. No man would like to project a
negative image of him. It is no wonder, a 13 year old guy, giving such comments
on girls-Effect of movies and stories told.
A guy meets gal, they fall in love, and after a
certain point of time, the relationship goes through certain hardships and it
breaks. The guy dumps his worries to his friend over a table of drinks, “I
loved her to the core, but she left me. Don’t believe girls. Love sucks”. The guy anguishes over the friend’s sorrow,
and he shares it with another guy and it snow balls and a smart fellow brings
the real life story in film reels, and it reaches masses, “Don’t believe girls,
love sucks”.
It should be understood that, “…She left me…”
is just the tip of an ice berg. If the friend spared a couple of minutes to
question, “Why she left him”, his answer, if true, might have revealed a
different picture.
Girls in our society are bound by innumerous
chains of society. Few girls, who are smart and bold enough to break the chain
and fly free, are branded as “unorthodox and anti-social”. Few more who are happy
and peaceful enough to be in shackles are the celebrated one in our society.
The rest of the lots, who try to fly free without breaking the chains, suffer
the most. They succumb to societal and parental pressure, at the cost of their
actual desire and dreams. Unfortunately the third category of girls holds the
majority of girl’s population.
This is just a simple perspective from an
inexperienced guy. But I believe there are stories of girls, untold. Or are the
voices unheard? Silence is golden, but not always.
